If you’re looking for some Dry January inspiration, need a break or just dipping your digit in the sober curious world….read this brilliant sober eve letter from Sammy.
What would you think if I told you that this time next year, you’d have met tons of new people (mostly people you found on the internet), some of whom you now consider your best friends?
What if I told you that you would be feeling genuine joy and authentic connection; that you would love yourself so much more than you ever have done before?
How about if I mentioned that you would have started exercising regularly, you’d saved money, you would be body confident for the first time since you were little and that Dad had told you on more than one occasion how incredibly proud of you he is?
That all sounds like the dream, right? Great aspirations to have, but things that you could never hope to achieve, let alone within the space of one year?
That’s where you’re wrong. You’re going to achieve all of that, and more, but you just need to do one thing for me – Put. Down. The. Wineglass (and the shot glass, and the prosecco flute… you see where I’m going with this, right?)
Stopping drinking is going to change your life. I know it sounds like a cheesy cliché, but I promise you I’m not exaggerating. I can see you frowning at me whilst you’re reading this, and if you’ve had a few glasses of rosé (which lets be fair, you probably have) you’ll be reading this with one blurry eye open, but bear with me…
You’ve always known that you have an unhealthy relationship with booze – why else do you constantly think about it? Why do you always keep an eye on who’s drinking as much and as quickly as you? Why do you wake up every weekend full of shame and anxiety, with no memory of the night before? Why do you always try and find evidence of other people who are ‘worse’ than you, to try and make yourself feel better after a big night out?
I’ll let you into a little secret – you’re not the only one who feels like that. There are thousands of people out there, just like you, and they’re going to be there to support and guide you. You just have to find them and listen to them.
I know that right now it seems impossible. You think that your life will be boring and grey without the confidence, personality and sass that alcohol gives you. But deep down, you know that something isn’t right. You know that you hate the person you can become after one too many – she’s not the real you, and she’s coming out to cause chaos more and more lately.
I’m going to give you a few tips now, so that you can find your sober feet more quickly:
Firstly, search ‘sober’ on Instagram and follow every account that appears – these people are your new gurus, trust in their advice.
Next, do some research and find out what ‘quit lit’ is and then and start working your way through the reading list.
Thirdly, put yourself out there – go to sober events, message your new sober internet friends with questions or just to ask for some support – be brave and vulnerable and open to change.
Finally, Google ‘alcohol-free prosecco’ – yep, that’s a thing, and it’s a bloody game changer.
I’m not gonna lie, there will be tough days. You’re going to begin feeling your feelings after years of numbing them and it turns out that you have a lot of shit to work through and process (oh hello
therapy!) But it’ll be worth it, because you’ll come through the other side a stronger, better and more authentic version of you.
This time next year, you’ll be looking back over the last 12 months with wonder and pride. 12 months hangover free. 12 months of no regrets and no bad decisions. 12 months of finally beginning to discover who you really are. Realising your purpose and what you’re truly passionate about. New hobbies and friends, incredible experiences and happy memories – you’ve got all of this to come sweetheart.
I am so incredibly proud of you, and everything you’re about to become.
PS that old saying ‘in vino veritas’ – what a load of old bollocks that is.